What is the difference between you and the successful great achievers in life?
Well the answer is very simple – they have developed remarkable self-confidence in themselves and their abilities.
Building self-confidence is necessary for you to take charge of your life and make the ecessary changes that will ensure greater personal happiness and more success in every aspect of your life.
Lacking in self-confidence can keep you stuck in life, in outworn habits of behaviour that need to be addressed and changed, in order to move forward, develop and grow as a person.
Every individual at some time in their life suffers with a lack of self- confidence, it can link with emotional insecurities and the first step is to acknowledge and take ownership of where you are, how you feel, and what you have created so far and only then can you start on the road of developing self-confidence for a new you.
To get you started I want you to answer the following questions and be honest with your answers because if you cheat then you’re only cheating yourself.
- Do you lack believe in yourself?
- Would you be afraid to start a new business?
- Do you shy away from meeting new people?
- Do you like challenges and taking risks?
- Could you step outside of your comfort zone and change jobs?
- Do you stand up for yourself and value your opinion when with others?
- Do you fear speaking in front of a group of people?
- Do you make excuses or blame others for your lack of confidence?
- Do you fear asking for what you want in fear that you will be rejected?
If you answered YES to most of the above questions then believe me you are not alone. Rest assured, over the 30 years I have worked in personal development most people’s problems stem from a lack of self- confidence and a failure to believe in themselves and their capabilities. We are not talking about status, or how much money people earn, or how successful they were, over 95% of people struggled with a lack of self-confidence in specific areas of their life.
Feeling under-confident in specific situations is such a common problem that when I do a session with a client, regardless of the issue, I always include suggestions for increasing their self-confidence.
Can you imagine what it would be like to…
- Not allow other people’s opinions and suggestions affect you.
- Believe in your own feelings and thoughts and achieve your own goals.
Learn to become interdependent in relationships – which means developing self-confidence and self-belief to steer your life in the direction you choose for you, but still remain in a loving relationship where both parties are equal.
So what has been stopping you from realising more of who you are?
Think of all the things you haven’t yet achieved for yourself. As you think about those things, ask yourself, “What has been stopping me?” The likelihood is that lack of self-confidence is a major factor. You don’t have to look very far to see that successful people who have high levels of self-confidence seem to be unstoppable at everything they do. Their determination to succeed is amazing.
"I wish I could do that, but I don't feel confident enough"
Have you ever watched a sales person negotiate a successful deal, or walk up to a stranger and start a conversation, start a business, give a speech in front of a large group of people? Have you ever thought, “I wish I could do that, but I don’t feel confident enough?”
Self-doubt, fear and lack of self-confidence can hold you back from achieving your aspirations, your dreams and your goals. But if you had ‘unstoppable self-confidence you would naturally become aware that you can solve any problem and handle any obstacle on your path to making your dreams become a reality.
Every one of us are born to be significant, special and successful in life. So if you haven’t yet achieved all the things in life that spells success for you then you now need to dig deep inside and tap the power that you were born with, which I believe is self-confidence and start creating the life you want from today. Remember you already have the power you just have to activate it by believing in yourself and then the confidence will start to develop day by day. Because when you have unstoppable self-confidence your world will change. You will develop and internal power base to control your life and destiny in every situation.
When you think positively, and have self-confidence your body emits an energy that naturally draws others, it magnetises people to you to assist you in fulfilling your dreams. This is why I always emphasise the importance of always being positive thinking and when combined with self-confidence you are a true winner in every situation.
Remember when you program your subconscious mind with an unshakable belief in yourself… nothing will be impossible for you. You will take immediate, massive, repeated action and will never give up until you make your dreams come true.
It is not enough to know, understand and develop self-confidence, you must also feel confident.
And your ability to feel self-confident is directly proportional to your beliefs at an emotional, not intellectual, level. One’s emotional level is directly linked to one’s behaviour and actions, hence self-confidence. Most personal development courses and programmes do not work with an individual’s emotional state, their feelings, their insecurities and their weaknesses. When these are recognised, understood and worked through then the individual is ready to make changes go forward and grow.Find out more about the A Winning Attitude Book and Licensed Program of Training and Coaching Courses.
Until next time